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  3. i dont know if you know, but indonesian politicians have fanbases….


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  5. Teaser for more travel notes  in DEUTSCHLAND !  it’s kinda long so I will break it into parts.. stay tuned.. and visit : 


  6. 'How To Be Alone'


    "Being alone in our present society raises an important question about identity and well-being.
    How have we arrived, in the relatively prosperous developed world, at least, at a cultural moment which values autonomy, personal freedom, fulfillment and human rights, and above all individualism, more highly than they have ever been valued before in human history, but at the same time these autonomous, free, self-fulfilling individuals are terrified of being alone with themselves?
    We live in a society which sees high self-esteem as a proof of well-being, but we do not want to be intimate with this admirable and desirable person.

    We see moral and social conventions as inhibitions on our personal freedoms, and yet we are frightened of anyone who goes away from the crowd and develops “eccentric” habits.

    We believe that everyone has a singular personal “voice” and is, moreover, unquestionably creative, but we treat with dark suspicion (at best) anyone who uses one of the most clearly established methods of developing that creativity — solitude.

    We think we are unique, special and deserving of happiness, but we are terrified of being alone.
    We are supposed now to seek our own fulfillment, to act on our feelings, to achieve authenticity and personal happiness — but mysteriously not do it on our own.
    Today, more than ever, the charge carries both moral judgement and weak logic.”

    "How to Be Alone" - Sara Maitland


  7. the Indonesian word ‘sayang’

    I’ve always loved the word ‘sayang’. 

    It’s a term used to express endearment and affection. It can be equated to ‘dear’, ‘darling’ or ‘sweetheart’ when referring a person. The word itself could also mean ‘like’ or ‘love’ but in its usage, I find it is much deeper than that.

    Whenever I heard the word ‘sayang’, it always expresses a mixture of emotions. 
    It’s not ‘cinta’ which means love -often used to express romantic love and also familial love. ‘Sayang’ is more about affection, care, liking/loving as it is. Doesn’t mean it’s not as deep or meaningful though.

    Whenever I hear ‘cinta’, it makes me think of those passionate feelings. Like a need or a want, maybe even possessive to a certain extent, like ‘Aku cinta kamu’ (I love you) or “Cinta seorang ibu ke anaknya’ (a mother’s love to her child). For some reason I feel a certain hold, grabbing sense to the word.

    But whenever I heard ‘sayang’, there’s a sense of affection and acceptance. It exudes warmth, care and softness. It also feels more unconditional when used in a sentence, for example: ‘Aku sayang kamu’ doesn’t translate directly to just ‘I love/like you’ but it’s more like ‘I care about you, deeply.’

    Perhaps it is closer to ‘I adore you’

    So in some sense, I feel most of the time ‘sayang’ word is a stronger word to express love because with ‘cinta’, there’s always a feeling of ‘pamrih’ (reward/purpose, like ‘you make me feel the love’) but with ‘sayang’ it’s more unconditional, more sincere. 

    The interesting part about the word ‘sayang’ is also its other uses, such as when it’s being used in a conversation like this:
    "Aku nggak dapet posisi yang aku mau." (I didn’t get the position I wanted/didn’t get the job.)
    "Ah.. Sayang sekali!" (Ah… that’s too bad!)
    "Iya, sayang ya." (Yeah, what a pity.)

    Now when used and translated like this, it sounded negative, but there’s no direct translation for what it actually expresses. When used in such context (aka loss) the usage of ‘sayang’ expresses acceptance to certain extent. There’s still a strong sense of loss, regret and sadness, but usually the usage signifies that the person who says it already in the process of letting go, or else they wouldn’t use the word. It’s quite complex.

    Thus, the emotions conjured by the word ‘sayang’ while usually less passionate than ‘cinta’, seems more enduring as the feelings involved simmers actively just beneath the surface. Slowly, but surely.

    It’s just a beautiful, sincere word to express an act of unconditional affection, or a more durable kind of love, that could stand through the tests of time.


  8. Laugh, laugh and laugh it away. Laugh it off instead of grieving- not to hide your grief but because you fully understood that it’s another way to cope, as life could be an absolute tragicomedy. Laugh honestly and sincerely… then keep on moving on.


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  11. 'Getting to know Joko Widodo' #1

    art by me, text by Marina & Me

    in Indonesian